6. 3. 2015 Kuza7Pas384

Lecture: What Is Unconditional Love

Love is the most powerful force which is not limited, so the saying “love can move mountains” is given its true meaning. Love is something we think that we know because we usually understand love as something we feel for our partner, parents, children, our pets; and this is where the feelings of love come to an end. Love in our everyday life is thus connected with our relationship to our closest. Roughly speaking we talk about two kinds of love: FILIO is the love we feel for our friends, our pets; the second one is EROS which is love between two partners and which says: “I love you for who you are.”

I love all your mistakes because I know they will make you grow. I love you and all your choices because I trust that they are the best for you. I love you and I do not demand you to love me back because I know that it will be returned to me when the time is right. When we really love the feeling itself that warms our heart is a reward big enough. Unconditional love is like light that cannot say: I will only give light to good people, not the bad ones. Love is given to all around us and it fills us. When it is there, there is no anger, no resentment, no guilt. So let us not forget the answers to the question, what love is not. This means, love is not about emotions, not anger, not resentment, not sadness, and it is also not about happiness, joy, etc.

The third kind of love is the unconditional love of values, i.e. AGAPE which requires truth, wisdom, attention and awareness of people’s reactions. But, how do we get to this kind of love, where do we get it? The answer is very simple: IT IS ALREADY INSIDE US.

The only problem is that we are full of fear, worries, frustrations, anger, and that is why we locked this love in our hearts so deep that even we ourselves cannot reach it. We must find the path to the heart and open it. The question is – how? It is much harder to do this in the middle of the hustle and bustle of city life, where we are trying to get from one part of the city to the other, from one meeting to the other and in noisy pubs. Take half an hour just for yourself. Turn off your phone, make sure that no one will disturb you. Light a candle and listen to the music that moves you. Then relax, breathe deep and calmly, listen to your heartbeat and recognize the love in it. Do not struggle, just let it come on its own and feel it. Then simply enjoy this wonderful feeling. Only then will you completely understand your therapist who says that who does not have love inside cannot give it to others. Life will start to change on its own, the relationships will start to change, and most importantly, you will change. Love will not be limited only to your closest, but it will reach everyone you meet. There will be enough of love for everyone. Always and everywhere..